"Wouldn't it be so cool if someone always gave us what we wanted?" A friend emailed that to me the other day. This particular friend has been a role model for me ever since I met her five years ago. She's been through a lot of life-changing challenges and emerged with grace and magnificent competence, and managed to hang onto optimism and generosity in the bargain.
The answer to the question, of course, is that it would not be cool at all. It would be a disaster. It's only in the NOT getting what we want - in getting, quite frankly, the inconvenient and painful opposite - that we grow. I could give you a thousand examples, but you have your own, of course.
(My daughter - who is 17 - said to me the other day, with a dramatic sigh - "I can't stand to be around people who've never experienced life-changing hardship." Giggle.)
Anyway, the thing is, it is extremely cool if someone *occasionally* gives you exactly what you wanted. And that happened to me yesterday.
This same wise friend of mine saw me drooling over this ring on facebook, and she called them up and had it sent.
Yes: it is made of tiny golden dinosaur claws. And I ADORE it. You'll see it at Bouchercon. (By the way, check out VeraMeat for more incredible jewelry. It's not for everyone, but it might be for you.)
Here's the funny thing. This past year, three of my best friends have given me rings - in the same year that I took off forever the ring that tied me to my past. I wear them all with such gratitude.
I'll close with a final gift sent from this same wise friend: